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10 Family Traditions New Couples Are Cutting Out And They’re Not Ashamed About It

The years go by and we continue to maintain some social rules without reflecting on their importance. Have you ever stopped to think about the need to place bridesmaids on an altar? Yes, people follow this and other traditions without thinking about what they represent.

O awesome.club researched the opinion of some Internet users and found 10 traditions that little by little are disappearing from our lives.

1. Make a marriage proposal

He is afraid to ask for her hand in marriage and she thinks that a request is no longer necessary. He buys a wedding ring and organizes a dinner at an expensive restaurant and she says she doesn’t want it because she’s not ready yet. The possibilities of misunderstandings to happen are very high and any detail can lead to the end.

“I bought a ring for my girlfriend who I’ve been with for 5 years to propose to her. The ring had a stone worth $30. She got super pissed off, said terrible things, and I ended up breaking up.”

Many couples decide to discuss plans in advance to avoid complicated situations. They are often surprised to discover that it is possible to solve the problem without the classic traditions: rings, restaurant, flowers. Traditions are set aside for the sake of common desires and this is often important for the relationship.

2. Celebrate the welcome

When you moved apartments did people start saying you had to have a welcome home party? This happens in many families, and some people need to have more than one party: one for family, one for friends, and one for co-workers. But why do that if you don’t want to?

“In general, people need to understand that we don’t always have time for homecoming parties. In addition, it is normal for people who are changing apartments to have no money, want to save money and have no time for parties”.

Most people need to finance their home purchase, and many move in with virtually no furniture, just a chair or two, a mattress, and a few appliances. Therefore, if a person does not want to throw a party to celebrate the new apartment, do not insist, he has his reasons.

3. Bridesmaids and Groomsmen

“I wouldn’t have the heart to ask my friends to buy special suits and dresses for my wedding. In general, if a couple wants to have many groomsmen couples they should pay for the clothes they will wear themselves”.

Nowadays, newlyweds have begun to refuse the matchmaking traditions of the past. Brides who want to be surrounded by bridesmaids wearing the same dress, in general, also have to pay for this expense.

4. Having children immediately after marriage

Many couples must contend with an almost obsessive concern on the part of family members about when they will have their first child. It is more common to hear something related to the children than a basic question like “How are you?”

“We had our first child after 3 years of living together. During that time, we got tired of being told that not having children was a big problem. But, we simply didn’t want to tell anyone that we were waiting for my wife to finish her studies, so that we could do everything calmly and with time. That’s what happened. People’s lack of common sense really surprised us.”

Some couples decide to postpone the birth of the child due to financial problems; others may not have health problems; and there are also those who want time for themselves. However, some people seem to know no limits and insist all the time about their children. The important thing is to remember that the decision is made by the couple and that no one has the right to demand or judge.

5. Organize parties for family and friends

Family, friends, and close associates are always looking forward to birthday parties and seem to place more importance on other people’s birthdays than their own.

Some people just don’t want to throw a party just to please. Many prefer to travel or be alone. Quiet, intimate anniversaries are often more memorable than big parties, and everyone knows what’s best for them.

6. Do a photo shoot for anything

If before people asked professionals to take pictures of important moments like weddings and graduations, today there are new types of photo shoots. love storyphoto session with friends, lifestyle“waiting for a miracle”, newbornetc.

“Photos serve to remember the best moments of our lives and all photo sessions are an attempt to be with someone in a new context. When people take a picture at a wedding or on a trip, that’s a memory. But doing a photo shoot for no reason is just a reminder that we did a photo shoot, and nothing else.”

Some people don’t like taking pictures, they just don’t enjoy doing it. Others just don’t see the point in the sessions people do. The important thing is that we know that they are not mandatory and forcing someone to participate in a session is not good for them or for you, because the photo will be much worse.

7. Wearing a wedding ring

Some couples prefer not to wear a wedding ring. The reasons for this are many: discomfort, swollen fingers, etc. In general, the main thing is the inconvenience and difficulty in adapting to use.

“My wife and I don’t wear a wedding ring. They were bought more for the sake of our family than for us. For us, trust is much more important than metal on our fingers.”

Nowadays, many couples do not use this accessory. Even gossip magazines have stopped talking about famous couples who don’t wear rings, like Prince William, Beyoncé, Jay Z, Will Smith or Jada Pinkett Smith.

8. Throw a baby welcome party

As soon as the mother leaves the hospital, the family members start to think of different ways to celebrate the arrival of the new family member. Some people don’t even wait a day to start planning a housewarming party.

The first months of a baby’s life are a very delicate time in the family’s life. According to doctors, it is worth leaving to receive visits after 3 months, as the risk of infection is high. Nowadays, couples don’t want to know about parties to welcome the baby, they prefer to just invite the next of kin and leave the parties for when the baby is ready.

9. Remember all important dates

Birthdays, holidays, children’s birthdays, wedding anniversary, first date, first kiss, first trip. The list is practically endless. Research shows that it is very common to forget important dates, and the abnormal thing is to remember everything.

“I forgot our wedding anniversary and my wife was a little offended. Today, 6 years later, she also forgets and who reminds us are our parents”.

Many couples don’t care about commemorative dates and prefer to give gifts on random days, because they know they won’t remember some dates.

10. Receiving relatives from another city in your home

This tradition was common when it was difficult to find cheap hotels and apartments even in big cities. Today, virtually every city offers many accommodation options for all tastes and budgets.

“When I got my own ‘corner’, a small kitchenette, a huge number of family members and acquaintances started asking to stay at home. Shortly after, I started living with my husband. When our son was born, the apartment became small and that’s why we moved. We decided to give the kitchenette as part of the payment and my whole family started calling me a cow hand”.

Many people love receiving visitors and guests, but the joy of having a friend or family member living with us does not always last long. Some people put up with visiting relatives even when they can rent a room or even an apartment. The ideal is always to make it clear how long you are willing to receive a person, to avoid fights in the end.

What is your opinion about these traditions? Do you think we can add another one to this list? Share in the comments.

Illustrated by Natalia Tylosova exclusively for Incredible.club

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