10 Definitive Signs That It’s Time to End Your Dating

end a relationship it’s not just hard to do, it’s downright exhausting… that’s why so many of us avoid what is often unavoidable!

A breakup can almost feel like a death. It’s the death of the potential of what could have been. You came in with such high hopes of where this would all lead… and now you have to accept that maybe this is the end of the road.

Besides, who really wants to start all over again? Who wants to get back into the dating waters, meet someone new, open up, find out about that other person and how you fit in, meet their family and friends, get them to meet their family and friends, and so on.

It seems so much easier to stay where you are, with someone you already know, no matter how miserable the relationship is.

this way of thinking causes many of us to stay in relationships that aren’t working for long. And there’s a big price to pay for that. You will not be able to recycle lost time. How many years are you willing to waste? There is also a big cost to your self-esteem.

Being in a bad relationship can wear you out and turn you into someone you barely recognize. You know you’re unhappy, but you try to convince yourself otherwise, because it seems easier that way.

One of the most important relationship skills is knowing when to leave. Know when it’s not working. It’s not always the easiest thing to do, but it’s really your only option and you’re just delaying the inevitable and fooling yourself by not facing the truth.

So, let’s look at some of the biggest signs that the relationship is over and you should.

1. You are stuck with good memories.

You are not living in the present. You are living in the past and you hold on to memories of how good things used to be. Never mind the fact that things haven’t been good for a long time. One day you hit it off, you were madly in love, you laughed and had fun.

You know things could be good because they were good. But how long will you stay in these memories? When will you accept that the bright past is no more and all you have now is a dark present?

2. You don’t love yourself anymore.

This is one of the biggest signs that this relationship is no longer working. Bad relationships have a unique way of turning us into bad versions of ourselves.

Whereas we started out confident, happy and full of light, we are now insecure, angry and full of darkness. You can’t remember the last time you genuinely smiled or felt genuinely happy.

You know that person is not you. This unhappy, uninspired and miserable person is a shadow of his former self. So why do you keep going? Because of how much you like him/her. Or how much you think you like him/her.

A good relationship makes us better people.. In the process, we are sometimes forced to face our worst traits, but overall, we feel seen and heard. We feel loved for who we are and this is refreshing and encourages our true selves to shine.

Bad relationships do the exact opposite. So forget about your feelings for him/her and ask yourself how he/she feels about you.

3. He/she is not trying to make the relationship work.

For a relationship to work, two people need to commit to making it work. One person cannot carry the team on his back.

If s/he doesn’t seem to care about fixing things or always says it’s okay and if you have a problem then it’s your problem or s/he won’t make the effort to make things better then there’s not much left to do. what to do

Relationships take work. They are like plants. They need love, attention and nourishment or they wither and die. If he’s not willing to invest in the relationship, then it’s time to end it.

4. You feel exhausted for a few days now.

Being around your partner isn’t as good as it used to be, and it doesn’t last long. You don’t feel excited, excited or inspired. You feel like you’ve been through an emotional war. You feel exhausted and destroyed as if you have nothing else to do.

Only you know that feeling. This is the feeling of utter hopelessness and despair because no amount of trying seems to get you anywhere.

5. You are filled with resentment.

Resentment is an absolute poison for a relationship. It can creep in slowly over time, but it will multiply quickly and lead to death if left untreated..

A buildup of resentment is a strong sign that the communication has completely broken down. You can’t express your needs to him/her in a healthy way because he/she doesn’t listen and vice versa.

What prevents you from listening is a wall of resentment that has built up over time. Instead of listening to each other, you think, “Well, why should I do something for him/her when he/she can’t even do such a thing for me?”

When arguments arise, that’s when the dirty fight in the relationship begins. Fights are a chance to let all your aggression and resentment run wild and everything spiral out of control.

Instead of trying to resolve the issues, an argument causes even more dissolution. As a result, you can keep repeating the same fights, turning and turning in this endless toxic circle.

6. Your friends and family think you should end the relationship.

Your closest friends and family usually know the truth. Now the question is how willing are you to listen to what they have to say?

I was in a horribly toxic relationship years ago and none of my friends or family members approved of it. They didn’t care if I was in love and that I claimed he made me happy. They saw how bad he was for me because they had something I didn’t have: objectivity.

I basically ended up isolating myself from everyone closest to me and clinging tighter to my toxic relationship, deluding myself into thinking he was amazing and everyone was crazy and didn’t know what they were talking about. Fortunately, everyone I avoided was sympathetic when the relationship inevitably imploded and they didn’t throw things at me with “I told you so” comments.

You may find that you don’t tell the truth about your relationship with anyone. When you talk about the relationship, you leave out important details because you know how bad it’s going to sound, and you know what the other person is going to say that you just don’t want to hear. And if someone says something even slightly negative about your relationship, you will be disproportionately defensive. This is because the truth hits us harder than any misconception.

7. You feel like you are walking on eggshells.

You can’t just relax and just be yourself. You are always anxious and nervous. Your relationship feels like a minefield. One step in the wrong direction and here comes the explosion.

So you tiptoe around the house trying not to make a more squeaky sound. You are afraid to do or say almost anything because everything turns into a fight.

You feel physically sick most of the time. There’s a lump in your throat and stomach, and you’re in a hyper-vigilant state, waiting for the next explosion.

8. You are settling for what you don’t want.

This is one of the most common scenarios. You’re in a situation that’s not the one you want but you’re…hoping that at some point it turns into the magical, loving relationship you’ve always dreamed of.

For example, maybe you want a certain level of commitment and he/she clearly says he/she can’t give it to you…but you stay, hoping that one day he/she will change his/her mind.

We can keep ourselves chained to all sorts of horrible situations while holding on to the hope of what could be and that’s always a huge waste of time.

9. You cling tightly to “as soon as…”

This is directly linked to the previous topic. You are not living in the present, you are living in some non-existent future.

The only thing that really keeps you in your relationship is the phrase “as soon as…”. Everything will be fine as soon as he/she has his/her problems under control… as soon as he’s not so stressed out at work… as soon as your family drama resolves itself… as soon as he/she is ready to commit.

You need to look at this situation as it is, not what it will be like “as soon as…”

10. You are totally incompatible.

Chemistry can’t nullify incompatibility, and yet many people think that passion is all you need to survive as a couple!

No matter how good the chemistry is, if you two are incompatible, it won’t work. If you have different values, different life goals, and you can’t meet each other’s fundamental needs, this relationship won’t last.

Love doesn’t conquer all and it definitely doesn’t conquer incompatibility, despite what romantic comedies would have you believe. You need to identify what you want and need in life.

What are your goals and values? What is your vision for the future? If they are not on the same page as you and their views are very different from yours, then you need to accept that this is not working and it is time to break up.

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